Christmas Tidings

I hope you all had a really lovely relaxing, filling and Merry Christmas. I spent it with my family and enjoyed one of the best roast dinners for a long time. We had the traditional turkey and beef wellington. There are so many lovely vegetables and bits to eat it is hard to not over do it.

What was the best gift you had this Christmas? I really enjoyed spending the time with my family, we don't often get together in one place so it was really nice to do it.

Is Christmas all about the material possessions, well I guess for some it is. I enjoy the presents don't get me wrong but I think now that people tend to buy stuff when they want it and it can be really difficult to know what to get people. You can end up buying items they won't use or enjoy and it seems a waste of money, for what.. because that is what you do at Christmas.

I think doing things together is the best part of it, I love playing games and we had a go at "Just Dance 2" on the wii. It was so funny seeing my mum dance to Beyonce my sister captured it on camera. My sister put together a montage of pictures of my nephews and gave it to my mum, it was truly a precious gift that touched my mum in a way a scarf of box of chocolates would never do. It was really nice to see her face and you could tell it went down well !

I hope you all had moments that made your christmas and I hope your New Year will bring many more.

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Struggling to know what you want? Try out this Outcome exercise

If you know you want to achieve something, but need clarity on what and how that might happen, maybe you can try this outcome exercise to help ease your pain.

Ask yourself the question and maybe you might need to sit with it, trust what comes to mind and pay attention to your gut instinct.

What specifically do you want?
Does it depend only on you?
Can you hear it, see it, feel it. Act as if you have it, now. Make it compelling.
What will this allow you to do? For what purpose do you want this?
Where, when, how and with whom do you want it?
What resources are needed? What do you have now? What do you need to get?

Please let me know how you get on and if you feel/think this has helped!

Jo

Achieving your goals

So, January 2012 is not far off and it is fairly typical that people set themselves goals and aims of things they want to achieve. Not just in January but all year through, so maybe you would be interested in a technique I was lucky enough to learn about.

So, think about your goal. You may well be creating a picture in your mind now, seeing it in all it's glory. Great. If you are struggling to get passed that stage, see my blog on "Outcomes".

With the Goal/Aim clearly in your mind, I will use the example of Changing my Job. I write this down at the top of my blank page. I will ask myself, "What do I need to do in order to achieve this", trust what comes up for you (your gut instinct will do all the work, if you listen to it). So my answer might be "Think about what I like doing", so I draw a vertical line and under the main goal I write my answer. Then I ask "What else", my answer might be "search on line for ideas", so I draw another vertical line and write my answer, then I repeat "what else" again do another vertical line and write my answer, keep repeating, changing the question if need be to "Anything else", when you feel you are coming to the minute detail, ask "Can I / Will I do this".

Then looking at your list, starting at the bottom, the task will more than likely be quite small and achievable. With each completion of the tasks, your confidence will grow and feelings of achievement etc will be obvious.

Sometimes when doing this exercise you may feel you are listing quite large tasks, so when starting, if the tasks are likely to be involved and contain a lot of things to do, make another vertical line from the main goal and come back to that one later.

I hope you all find this useful, if you want more information about this then feel free to email me info@joannehuey.co.uk or comment on my blog.

Good luck.

Jo

Greed... Saying No?

What is Greed to you? Greed to me is when someone wants something in excess that they can't afford. Someone that doesn't share/keep it to themselves.

I have been thinking about Greed recently and I wanted to write some of my thoughts on the topic.

To me, some of what we see in society today seems to be very related to greed. The need to have things that we haven't earnt or can afford to pay for.

I watch Crimewatch and it shocks me to see some of the quite frankly aggressive acts that happen because someone wants someone else's money. Read that again... someone is aggressive to another person because he/she believes she is entitled to/deserves/wants what they have, unbelievable!

What is it that people feel this money, possessions etc will give them. Is it because they are so unhappy in themselves? They are clearly only focusing on the now and living for what they need now and have no thought or feeling that they pay attention to for others.

What has made us so in-humane to treat others in this way? The need to have what we want at any cost? Where is the line, the limit to what we will do to get what we want?

I know this is in extreme circumstances, but a lot of us (me included) buy things that we can't afford. Getting credit is a lot easier and we tell ourselves we want and deserve it. Then in some cases people get into so much debt that it makes them unhappy. For some this can spiral out of control and they can't manage.

How hard do we find it to say no? Instead of deciding to buy something or spend money on something we don't really need, can we just say no? Or what is it we get from saying Yes!? Some high? excited feeling inside our bodies? some sort of buzz?

What are your thoughts on this topic?, I feel a lot of issues we have relate to Greed.